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Dad says he's refusing to pay for his daughter's wedding after she forbid him from walking her down the aisle
In the world of weddings, traditions can stir up quite the storm, especially when they clash with modern sensibilities.
The age-old practice of "giving the bride away" has recently sparked a heated debate both online and in a family home, with one father finding himself at odds with his daughter over this very issue.
When his 19-year-old daughter made it clear she didn't want either parent to walk her down the aisle - citing the tradition's outdated roots in arranged marriages - her dad found himself unable to forgive her.
Venting his frustration on Reddit, he shared his dilemma: "She argues that her mother and I don't 'own' her, therefore we have no right to 'give her away'."
His independent daughter's stance didn't sit well with him, who felt hurt by the implication that he saw her as mere property.
"I feel hurt by this because we never treated her like an object or piece of property, rather we've tried our best to provide her with a wonderful life," the father writes. "Her stance seems extreme to me and despite discussions, she's refusing to budge on the issue.
"I respect her choices, but I feel she's disregarding our feelings completely."
In response, he decided to take a drastic step: if she insisted on bucking tradition, she'd have to foot the bill for her own wedding.
"As a response, I told her that if she feels that way, then I won't be paying for her wedding," the father writes.
"I also don't owe her a fully funded wedding," he asserted.
The Reddit post ignited a fiery discussion, with opinions split on whether the dad's move was justified. While some accused him of being controlling, others applauded his decision, arguing that an independent woman should handle her own affairs.
One person attempting the reason with the father commented: "I can understand why your feelings are hurt. However, were you planning on paying for the wedding as a gift to your child to celebrate their marriage, or because you would get to symbolically give your child away to a spouse?"
A second mocked: "'I don’t wanna come off as controlling and manipulative' but I wanna make my daughter's wedding about me and so I will take away my support if she doesn’t do what I want. [You're the a**hole]."
"Why are you paying for a wedding to give away a possession you don't own?" one commenter asked.
Another even scorned: "She's soooo independent so she can pay for her own wedding. And then when she's a little older and wiser and a less of a teenager, you can walk her down the aisle for her second wedding."
In a surprising twist, the dad later revealed that he had opted to give his daughter a generous gift instead, equivalent to the cost of her older sister's wedding.
He also added that he was able to make amends with his daughter and they're now seeing eye-to-eye.
But what do you think of the dad's choice? Let us know in the comments!